I’m a christian dating a non-christian, what is your opinion (and is it informed by any faith?)?
I’m a christian and my girlfriend is of no religion. She is a wonderful girl who is very positive and supportive of my faith. She is the best partner I’ve ever had – much more wonderful than even christian girls i’ve dated. Despite this, she simply does not share my faith. I would like to hear from other people who have had similar experience, How was it? what issues did you face? has it worked out or was the gap too much. . . . ???
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Continue dating her and remember: you’ve heard the phrase imitation is the sincerest form of flattery?
Now is the time to imply that phrase.
@AdoreHim: That is one of the reasons you often see atheists call Christians crazy.
If she supports you and loves you for your religion and who you are, I think you should do the same for her. If you’re happy how things are and you love each other, what does it matter what religion you are?
I’ve dated a Christian before, he was disappointed I was not one but it never was a problem in our relationship ^_^
I am going to ask you what you God thinks of you dating a non-Christian? It does not matter what I think. You may be right that your girlfriend is better than any Christian you have ever dated, but that does make it right. You should be equally yoked. Even though she is supportive of your faith, you don’t share that same faith, and later it could make a huge difference. I will share this with you. When I first met my husband he was not a believer. I liked him the first time we met. But I knew that I could not continue to date him if he did not come to know Christ. I am praising God that He accepted Christ almost immediately after we met. If he hadn’t I would not have married him, no matter how much I loved him.
Define “dating”…?
The scriptures teach, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship does righteousness have with unrighteousness? and what communion does light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
Love covers a lot of differences, and in some cases it may work out for a believer to marry an unveliever, but the odds are against it. I would advise you to seek to share your faith (if it is real to you) and help her to come to belief in Jesus, the savior of all men, the Messiah. If she is as wonderful and supportive as you purport she will have no problem accepting Jesus and all He stands for. good luck and God bless!
How serious are you as a Christian?
Scripture is pretty clear. It tells us not to be involved in important ways (like relationships and business) with others who don’t share our beliefs.
Love relationships were designed by God to bring us closer to each other at the same time we draw closer to God. If one of you isn’t drawing closer to God, the other one will be limited. Your partner will have to deal with the idea that they’re holding you back, also. It’s not a good situation.
I once saw a demonstration where a big football player was told to stand in a chair, and a small, very feminine girl stood facing him. He tried to pull her up onto the chair without losing his balance, but he couldn’t lift her up. She was able to grab hold of him and pull him right down to her level, however.
A lot of truth in that demonstration.
The gap depends on you and her. If you can’t get past your differences and accept each other for who you are, you’re doomed. But a long and successful mariage is possible if you let it be…
it shouldnt matter to you…
but in the bible it does say you shouldn’t marry someone of a diff. faith…
but these are modern times and i dont think it should matter…
(and by the way i am not one of those verse-slinging monkeys that try to make everyone miserable!!!!)
b/c i am bi…so yeah…
My opinion is irrelevant. What matters is what the Word of God says……..
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.”
“Therefore come out from them
and be separate, says the Lord.
Touch no unclean thing,
and I will receive you.”
“I will be a Father to you,
and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”
II Corinthians 6:14-18
“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning; for there are some who are ignorant of God—I (Paul) say this to your shame.”
I Corinthians 15:33-34
I have been a student of the Bible for well over thirty years, and I don’t suppose there is any one thing that has tripped up and brought grief into the lives of God’s people more than this one thing – associating with those who have no regard for God.
I guess you do not believe the Bible when it said to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. What has light to do with darkness.
You are just pressing the envelope because you want to do what you want, and you are expecting the Lord to bless the union just because you want her to change.
Well it never works out. You will never be happy. You need to take the wisdom of the bible and apply it and not ask something that the Bible already supplied 2000 years ago
its really what you think its right
but if i was you i would try to change her by telling her about your religion and trying to make her believe the same thing as you because later in life it could be a problem when you get married you would want your kids to be christans, go to church, etc and if she is a non beliver she would want them to be like her
It will become a problem if you try to witness to her. I’m agnostic, used to be born again christian. In my experience, it can be a very sore point in a relationship. Of course, if you are not a very strict Christian, you may end up having the best relationship of your life. I wish you both well.
The apostle Paul said that “believers should not be yoked to unbelievers”. I had some girlfriends who were not Christians and it did not work out. I thought that the woman I married was a Christian but realized after the marriage that she wasn’t. That didn’t work out either.
An intimate relationship cannot last forever on good sex ( I presume that is what you mean by “she is the best partner I’ve ever had”, the differences between your beliefs will cause you to want different things (If you truly are a Christian). Your differences in belief and goals will cause frustration and anger and that will ruin your sexual experiences. Then you will have nothing to base your relationship on.
If you are a Christian you must be looking ahead to marriage. You realize that if you are having sex with your g/f that that is a sin and if you don’t eventually end the sin by marriage that you risk going to hell. You must look at what the Bible says about what a Christians life goals should be and act upon that. Is your G/F willing to do the same?
What does God say? Have you prayed and asked if you are on the right path? God puts certain people in our lives for a certain amount of time. Let Him do His will.
I’m a non-christian, and most of my boyfriends have been christians (mostly because I went to a Jesuit high school) and it was never really an issue… it might be because I used to be Catholic before I converted. For the most part when we broke up it was for reasons totally unrelated to his religion or mine.
Your faith in Christ should be the first and most important thing in your life. How can you desire to be with someone who does not believe in your Savior who is supposed to be your first love? If they are not for God they are against him even if they are a wonderful person.
2 Corinthians 6:13-15
13 Now in return for the same (I speak as to children), you also be open.
14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?
My opinion is this. I would not want to give a part of my heart to someone who does not have a love for Jesus who just happens to be the love of my life. The bible is clear that we should not yoke our hearts with an unbeliever someone who is not saved. Great question. Thanks for asking it. God bless
The Bible says not to be unequally yoked. II Corinthians 6:14-18.
There is too much conflict between people who do not share the same faith (or lack of). If 2 people of different sets of morals/religious views, etc., have no conflict, then one (or both) are compromising and not taking their own faith seriously.
There are exceptions to every rule, and sometimes you might have, for example, a strong Christian married to say, an atheist who doesn’t have issue with the spouse going to church and even taking the kids. However, the relationship can still be damaged because I think most people want to have unity with their spouse in every major aspect of their relationship. Faith and values are what keep people together during the tough times.
Then you have kids to think about…if you have kids with this person, is she going to let you take them to church with or without her? Women usually control this kind of stuff, so just think very carefully before you make any major life decisions. Follow your head, not your heart.
On the other hand, if your gf is that supportive, it’s possible she might be willing to go to church with you and that sort of thing.
Just pray about it. Good luck.